This is still in relation to my last post ‘is it okay to date a friend’s ex?’.
As I’ve said, in that article I’ve read, there are many mind-boggling questions really worth pondering. In the course of my days, I’ve proven that questions are easiest to answer only when we are not the person really being asked [like we just heard someone ask it to another person on the bus or wherever], or given that the question was being thrown at us, it is easier to answer if we haven’t experienced such thing.
Most of the time, the hardest questions are the simple ones. The questions which people assume that we know the answer by heart because they seem pretty simple, but in reality the answer is lost in our subconscious or in other cases, we just don’t have a clue.
On the same page as the question ‘is it okay to date a friend’s ex’ is a query that also really, really caught my attention, which goes this way: how do you know if s/he is THE One?
I thought it was a simple question, but you know what? When I tried to ponder on it and come up with my own answer, I was just at a loss! I didn’t know what to say, or maybe I do but I just can’t put it into words. Really it felt ridiculous.
So here’s what I did: I asked my man a while ago as we were eating lunch about what he thought was the answer to that question and our conversation went this way:
ME: Sa tingin mo paano mo ba malalaman kung siya na yung para sayo? [How do you know if the person is THE one for you?]
MY MAN: [ponders for a moment…] Paano nga ba?… Ewan ko ba. Hindi ko malaman! [laughs and looks at me softly.]
ME: Eeeehhhh! Ano ba namang sagot yun? Sagutin mo na kasi yung seryoso. [What kind of answer was that? Answer it seriously.]
MY MAN: Sige, sige. Hmmm… [Okay, okay.]
ME: Ang tagal naman! [You’re taking too long!]
MY MAN: Eh kasi basta alam ko na ikaw na yun! [I just know that you’re THE One!]
ME: Ganun ba? [Is that so?]
[secretly melts inside…]
MY MAN: Eh ikaw anong sagot mo dun? [How about you, how do you answer your question?]
ME: Ewan ko, hindi ko nga din maisip eh. Mahirap pala talaga sagutin. [I don’t know, I can’t think of anything. It’s really a tough question.]
MY MAN: O tingnan mo na. [See.]
ME: Ah alam ko na! [I know the answer!]
MY MAN: O anong sagot mo? [What is your answer?]
ME: Alam kong ikaw na yun kasi kasi kahit na ikaw na ang pinaka nakakainis na taong nakilala ko, ayaw ko pa rin mawala ka sa tabi ko. [I know you’re THE One because even though you are the most annoying person I’ve ever met, I still want you beside me.]
MY MAN: Ah ganun. Maganda yang sagot mo ha. [Is that so? You have a good answer.]
And we both ended up laughing.
In the end, I guess you know THE One when you can’t think about anyone else, or in other cases, when you can’t think of a number two, three, four, five, and so forth.