Losing Battles

Success is the ability to move on from one failure to the next.

I spent the day with my good friend who had just failed in the recent board exam for accountants. We ate a lot – almost had a party, and gave food away to the neighbors, who one after the other asked, “whose birthday is it?” We thought he was really special because failing and all, we still had a bash.

We talked about it, the failing, a bit, but it was really more on a fun tone, though we never dared to underrate the impact, it was definitely not okay – but more definite was that I won’t allow him to sulk about it. I told him that crying upon hearing the news was enough; doing it again would be redundancy, and to be called redundant was just ridiculous.

I have enough sense stored on the old cabbage to think about success in a positive way, I mean, about failure, in a better light. We decided that what happened to him was just one way of not passing the board – and there are tons of ways he can take next so that he’ll eventually receive a different outcome. I’m sure it hurt, and probably it hurt like hell, so much that I would never understand… but a little self-pity and that’s that, no more, no less.

For one, things happen for a reason – the universe is so grand I cannot bear to think that the cosmos would allow something to occur by mere chance, without rhyme nor reason – maybe in a parallel universe, but definitely not on this one.

Plus, failing once is not really failing. Ultimately, it is what you really do after failing that will determine how the world judges your success.

34 thoughts on “Losing Battles

  1. “Plus, failing once is not really failing. Ultimately, it is what you really do after failing that will determine how the world judges your success.”

    -this is a very nice way to put it.

  2. they say the sweetest thing in victory isn’t so much the win, but what you may have to give up to get the win. It’s not the end of the world for your friend. It’s not like he lost his girlfriend for good. He’s got another shot at it. šŸ™‚

  3. That’s a good positive outlook, and there is always a saying as try again until you succeed.

    This is a hard test although I made it in the late 1970’s I would never take it again.

    Keep encouraging him. Salamat sa pag bisita.

    • wow cpa ka pala. i know it is a hard test. the passing rate is so low. that, or the examiners have a pretty crazy idea of what cpa’s should be.

  4. this is so true! everything happens for a reason and for sure may plano pa na mas maganda si God sa kanya ^__^ you are such a good friend, dapat pag may nangyaring ganun sa isang kakilala or kaibigan, instead na lalong i-down ang tao, we should cheer them up, baka tayo na lang ang napagkukunan niya ng faith para sa sarili niya ^__^

    • one of the worst part of failing is facing the world after but if the world makes no such big deal about it, surprisingly, failing does not really become a big problem after all.

  5. Your post brought a lot of memories. When I passed the same board exams, it was a victorious day yet sad at the same time. I had to console my dear ones for not passing. Keep motivating your friend. This line is gasgas na, but in God’s time, your friend will make it.

    • CPA ka din? that is tough. you can really never celebrate that way right? but yes, i know he will make it. that is something we’ve known for a long time.

  6. it’s what you call “failing forward,” not letting your failures pull you down, instead making it work for you and bring you to the next step.. what a nice post before to read before i log out ^_^

  7. ‘ your friend may have lost a battle but the war is still waiting to be won.. i remember my friends a couple of months back when they failed the ICNLE.. puede umiyak sabe ko, pero di puede magmukmok.. =)

    • it is just a matter of perspective diba? for one, i think i learn more from my failures than my successes… if i have successes LOL

  8. can’t say what you have just said any better. tama ka:

    “the universe is so grand I cannot bear to think that the cosmos would allow something to occur by mere chance, without rhyme nor reason”

    nothing is ever random… nothing happens by chance. we cannot just figure out the pattern yet.

  9. what an insight. failures in life are the epitome of a laxative. they make one a better person depending on how they are perceived to be. it hurts like hell to fail but how could it equate to the heavenly feeling of doing well the next time around?

    keep on being a good friend to your friends. friends need a friend like you especially during moments such as this.

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