In this country, a family is defined by a married couple and the presence of children. I noticed that, having no children is always an issue. Often, couples who have gray hair too early for their age from raising their children look at those other married couples without children with pity, or sometimes, people huddled outside their houses would often speak of one or the other’s infertility.
No, this is not about the most annoying debate or non debate about the RH Bill. This is about the culture we have towards raising a family and having children, or the lack thereof.
You know that I am not a fan of children. It does not mean I do not want one. I do not want one now, but maybe a day will come when I would. But what I want to say is this: not all people are meant to have children and the stigma that is associated with family is not helping that point come across as popular.
There are people who are selfish to the bone who should not have children. There are those who look at family life in a very skewed way they are like acid to marshmallow children. There are those who are being eaten away by poverty it is impossible for them to support children. There are those who should not even be living with their spouse, how else will they care for their children?
I often get sick hearing people say that children these days are so far from the children of the past. It is sickening because it is the wrong perspective. The truth is, the parents of today are so far from the parents of the past that is why the kind of children they produce are the kind society has been complaining about all this time!
You know what, I think having children is like getting a tattoo on your face. You should think about it a million times. Not how many you should have, but if you should even have one.