In this country, a family is defined by a married couple and the presence of children. I noticed that, having no children is always an issue. Often, couples who have gray hair too early for their age from raising their children look at those other married couples without children with pity, or sometimes, people huddled outside their houses would often speak of one or the other’s infertility.
No, this is not about the most annoying debate or non debate about the RH Bill. This is about the culture we have towards raising a family and having children, or the lack thereof.
You know that I am not a fan of children. It does not mean I do not want one. I do not want one now, but maybe a day will come when I would. But what I want to say is this: not all people are meant to have children and the stigma that is associated with family is not helping that point come across as popular.
There are people who are selfish to the bone who should not have children. There are those who look at family life in a very skewed way they are like acid to marshmallow children. There are those who are being eaten away by poverty it is impossible for them to support children. There are those who should not even be living with their spouse, how else will they care for their children?
I often get sick hearing people say that children these days are so far from the children of the past. It is sickening because it is the wrong perspective. The truth is, the parents of today are so far from the parents of the past that is why the kind of children they produce are the kind society has been complaining about all this time!
You know what, I think having children is like getting a tattoo on your face. You should think about it a million times. Not how many you should have, but if you should even have one.
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Well, there are so many things that are not just for everyone. But having children isn’t like getting a tattoo on your face, because your children will definitely be your face, with or without the tattoo on it, methinks.
that is a very interesting point sheng. it will become your face! buti na lang maganda ang kids mo kaya maganda ang face mo sheng!
this is a good perspective. i am one of those that want to have one and are doing every conceivable way to have a child but still remaining childless.
there is a reason for everything i guess. stay positive ewok! 🙂
i 100% agree PM: parenthood is definitely not for everybody, just as marriage is. anyway, what’s wrong with being married and not having children? do not act as if it were so wrong! some people want to be together and not have children!
super tama kg. kaso hindi popular ang concept na yan sa pilipinas. laging requirement ang kids, which is wrong but it is culture. ang labo diba?
I love making kids cry. Sometimes when Im in the bus, I would make faces at little kids while their parents are not looking.
“I often get sick hearing people say that children these days are so far from the children of the past. It is sickening because it is the wrong perspective. The truth is, the parents of today are so far from the parents of the past that is why the kind of children they produce are the kind society has been complaining about all this time!”
I don’t agree at all. If you will check old movies and talk to your grandparents the way people act before are actually the same with us now. Old people just love criticizing the younger generations. If you will watch old movies, the sentiments that they have before are very similar to what we have now. The flaws that parents nowadays have were the same flaws that parents of before had.
Teen marriages in the past are as prevalent as they are now. My grandma got married at the age of 17. Child abuse and neglect are the same. Across the history, to the present and to the future; there had been and there will always be bad parents and children. The year has no relevance at all.
i agree that the year has no relevance at all. it was just a point of reference since the most common complain that you get these days is how different kids are now. you hear it everywhere, in schools, on the bus. but i agree that there will always be bad parents and bad children. which is why i do not like the culture that we have towards family life and having kids.
i’m not sure if you got my email. anyway, here’s what i sent:
Go to theme options, and choose how many featured posts you wish to appear on the front page (i chose 6 for mine, as you may see in my blog). Now, to insert a featured photo, while writing your post, go to Featured Image and click set featured image, (it’s below the Post Tags).
I hope this helps! 😀
hello jayvie! thanks for the help. yeah, i did not get the email since i do not open that email a lot 😆 but thanks for the help. i will send you an email using my account so we can communicate. i will try to follow your instructions and see where it goes. thanks again!
hi PM. were you able to fix na theme options? you must choose the number of featured posts first, and leave the other three options below un-ticked, well depending on how you wish your home page to appear. you could experiment on that 😀
i did choose and followed your instructions. i think i will work on it again later. maybe it was just a problem with my web that is why the photos are not loading or something. keeping my fingers crossed jayvie. hopefully i will be able to nail it. thanks dear 😀
Spot on, PM! I wholeheartedly agree with your insightful post. 😀
thanks ceemee, coming from a mom like you. i really think there is a lot into this topic. but of course, it will be very unpopular, as is always the case with correct notions in this life.