It’s Day 03 already! It is pretty interesting how things are shaping up. To the lovely Tom and Cherlyn, your idea to come up with this blog event is so fab. It is not the easiest thing in the world but it is mighty interesting.
Maybe I’m the first one to use the alternative question, but here goes:
Your daughter tells you she is bringing home her boyfriend for dinner. When they arrive, she introduces you to a man who is not your same race. Sometime during dinner she announces that they have been married for the last six months. What bothers you more? The difference in race or being excluded from the wedding…
Because I am required to answer in complete honesty, I will start by saying that right now, I do not feel like I want to have children. Maybe in the future I will feel like I want to have children, but right now, kids are light years far from my mind.
I don’t know if I will be any good with them. My dog, Monsieur Lacy, does not even listen to me, much less our pack of cats, how much worse with a kid who can talk back? I don’t know. I can see so many people who should not have kids but they do have kids. But what I do know is I do not want to have a kid for the wrong reasons.
So if ever this question really comes into play sometime in the future, I really don’t care at all what race my kid’s husband will be. He can be Thai, American, Brit, Filipino, or even Martian. Heck, it can even be marriage for citizenship but as long as he treats her well, then I’m off their case. As for the marriage exclusion, I am less likely to kill my daughter than Mother Goose. She will practically disown her grandchild if she learns of this. You see we are a very close family, even the extended ones, so it will be a great mess.
We take everything as a family and birthdays matter so much, what more weddings, when it is up on a different stratosphere? It means we are giving our daughter away and because she married on her own, we did not get that chance. I think that is a bit unfair but hopefully it will not happen because if I am to have a child, I will raise her to the best of my abilities, and this includes making sure she invites me to her wedding, at least. 😀
Looking forward to see what the other blog event participants come up with!
We Pinoys take family quite seriously -and that does not exclude life events such as a wedding! 😀 Thus, it’s more disturbing that one marries without inviting relatives… really, we’re Filipino and we’re made up of like more than one race..so it surely does not matter if one marries a martian…especially if he’s a hot martian! 😀
true, true. i applaud the part about the hot martian!
Hi PM! I’ve been reading your blog for a while now. (I hope you don’t mind that I added your blog in my daily read list in my blog!) I’m also doing the 30 days blogging challenge, (I’m about to answer Day 3 tooodaaay) and I swear… it’s really hard! 🙂
Anyhoo, in relation to this blogpost of yours, race is just a label, but when it comes to family occasion and you’re the only one not invited? Daaaaaymn, now that’s offensive.
hello jen, that is fantastic, thank you! it can be hard but it is also fun right? i get a real kick out of it. i think it’s awesome. for this question, i just hope it does not happen, you know?
Hahaha! I know 😀 Actually, I was thinking of answering the alternate question. But I remembered that my mom or the nuns that I used to work with wouldn’t be reading my answer to Day 3, I gave in and answered it. I felt so liberated after answering it :))
i can’t do the same. kids read this blog, as well as my relatives. i might get a telling for it, not worth it. i so have my own problems already. 😆
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Wonderful post! And I love your dog. Looks so cute. 😀
thanks, he’s really a cutie but he does not listen to me totally.
They never listen to us totally. They just make us think they do. 🙂
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nice post..i would also feel more bad about being excluded from the wedding..as long as the souls are compatible , who cares about races?
true. race is just another label.
I was so close to using the other question, but I think that I might use it in the future so I will do my best to answer the questions first. 😀
My family is like yours, and it will also be trouble if this will happen. 😀
saving it for the best huh? i guess this situation is typical for anyone who has a very close knit family.
In our culture the union is marriage is such a big celebration. I can’t imagine how that would play if a girl got married and excluded her parents. Can that even happen?
in mine too. idk where it happens but i believe it can happen somehow.
Hmm, this one’s a nice way to making friends eh?
the blog event? definitely sheng!
i like these words “…You see we are a very close family, even the extended ones”
very Pinoy. maintindihan kaya ‘yan ng mga Martian kung sakali? *kidding*
very pinoy, yes. when it comes to family we are true blue pinoy. i guess martians don’t have a choice but to understand!
Same with my family.
Weddings are a big part of my family and also of my culture.
If someone was to get married in secret they’re be in very big trouble especially with my grandmother.
so agree. in a family environment like mine, everyone has a say so it’d be real messy in case!
I would def be upset if I were excluded.
i think anyone would!
I believe you are the first to use the alternative question and because the day starts first on your side of the planet you also post your answers first, for it is still April 2nd here! It is a great answer Prinsesa and I think just because you worry so much about being a good parent; for that reason alone I think you will be just fine. See you at her wedding!
i actually thought about that. the days turn her first than everyone else. oh well, if i end up missing a day then my posts will be in sync with yours and the others. maybe i worry about it too much. idk but if ever the time comes i guess i just have to do my best. yes tom, see you and hopefully we both get invited. 🙂
Ultimately, the decisions related to marriage are for my daughters, not for me. I accept their choices, unless the person gave me cause not to by actions.
that’s true. my aunt would always say the same. she says she will not be the one to spend her life with the other person.
Loved your answer, and your family does seem to be the epitome of a true-blue Filipino one. God bless!
As for the question: I think if I got excluded I’d be like, FINE! FRIENDSHIP OVER!
yes addie, we are very typical and i’m pretty glad with that. that is a nice answer. maybe i should consider saying something like that too. 😛
I didnt end up answering this question for the 30 days, but I’m sure I’d react to the situation the same way. Race doesnt matter to me, I would be more upset about not being invited to the wedding.
race does not matter tons to me too. i think we are all human and it all boils down to how good we try to be as ourselves, without labels.
i’d take more offense in being excluded in the wedding 🙂 mortal sin in my books (kidding)
same here. this is one of those big things that cannot be taken alone, regardless of how much one wants to or otherwise.