As I was waiting for sandman to come, which I say was rather running pretty late last night, I was browsing old magazines I had, scattered earllier that afternoon on the bed by my sister Piapot. There was an interesting article that I forgot I’ve ever read, an interview of various boys and men than answer pretty nice-to-know questions with regards to girls. It may sound a bit childish, but I think men and women, no matter the age or the time they’ve spent together are still puzzled by the nature and behavior of each other.
There are a lot of good questions worth expanding here, but I think I’d start first with a question from that article that read, “What about dating a friend’s ex?”
There were three answers and all of these men said no. The reason: out of respect for their friend. But one was kind of unsure because after that he followed with “if I really like her I’d talk to my friend and ask for his permission.”
I thought about the question and I think my answer would be this: a friend’s ex is fair game if a. your friend is now happily married and lives somewhere far away with her wonderful hubby and chubby kids, b. they’ve been separated for a decade or so, and c. when your friend says it is okay for you to date his/her ex.
Now option C is the most complicated since you don’t really know if the okay of your friend is really okay, okay, or just okay, okay just to get it over with and avoid further discussion, especially when your friend is still single after their break-up. I say you should weigh the life of your friend first, assess her emotional status, and watch oh-so-carefully all her actions, both verbal and non-verbal when you ask about it. At least, that’s what I know of when it comes to women. I’m not really sure how it goes for men. They’re tricky creatures I tell you. I guess you never really now what is fair game for them, since they seem to have this unwritten codes of brotherhood or whatever somewhere.
How about you? Did you have any similar or the exact experience? How did you deal with it? What happened? And at the end of the day, did you find the answer to that mind-boggling question, is it okay to date a friend’s ex?