The Perks Of Being A Wallflower Book Review: How Often Do You Do Things That Matter?

Book number 1 is The Perks of Being a Wallflowerย by S. Chbosky. I read it twice. ๐Ÿ™‚ The first time I finished was on January 1 and the second was today. To be honest, having this book disguised as an innocent book for adolescents bothered me because this is really not a book that would make you feel good.

The book discussed suicide, drugs, sex and gay sex, abortion, battery, child abuse, and mental illness, sandwiched in between narratives on dating, dysfunctional families, mix tapes, late night parties, and how difficult it is to find your place and when you finally find it, how life always seems to easily take it, and how difficult it is to find your place again but when you do, you’d be laughing.

I mean, The Perks of Being a Wallflowerย was great but it was meant for thinking… You need to “be a filter, not a sponge.” This is actually the first time I wondered whether books for young adults should have a parental advisory ticket. I’m not sure. But then again, this book may not even be intended for young adults and I just assumed it is because the general topic is coming of age.

The more I think about it, the more I cannot place the answer on what is the perk of being a wallflower. The only association to a wallflower that I could find was that of the main character named Charlie who “see things. You keep quiet about them. And you understand.”

Honestly, I do not think Charlie understands. He just sees things and wonders why these things happen, then later accepts them whether he has figured them out or not. He also lived a very disturbed life, which was later established was a result of child molestation, by his most favorite person in the world no less, and I cannot find any perk there really. I hope I did not miss the point of the book. ๐Ÿ˜ฏ

But I can relate to Charlie. I did not fit in easily too and prior to reading this book, I actually thought I was a wallflower. But now I know that is the silliest thought I had so far. ๐Ÿ˜† I am hardly passive. I guess I just don’t like trends and fads and I mind my own business and I do not live to impress anyone. This makes me the odd one but I don’t mind being weird if it meant doing the right thing and choosing my battles well.

This book has actually taught me a lot of important things like how it is cool to “be different in a way that makes sense”, that I should not talk too much and strive to listen well, and if anything matters, it has got to be “to do things” and be honest.

It is really a nice book (it was made into a movie set to come out this year) but it is not for the faint of heart. It is kind of dark and it takes you to some of the most uncomfortable things in life. It did reference a lot of good literature, and music, and showed that different people can be cool in their own unique ways, if you let them. ๐Ÿ™‚

The Perks of Being a Wallflower is far from the most entertaining book ever but if you keep an open mind and you dare to be different, this is a book you will not soon forget.

On the photo: I brought the book to the beach with me yesterday but I did not read it much because I realized it is not the type of book you read to chill out. You can also see that I’m using the blue help me bookmark I got from my Dear Santa I’ve Been Good lootย (my partner last year was Jeanny). I’d also like to say thanks to Rem again for giving me this book over the holidays. ๐Ÿ™‚

36 thoughts on “The Perks Of Being A Wallflower Book Review: How Often Do You Do Things That Matter?

  1. Good review. thanks, i was trying to read it lately, i just felt it was so slow, not the kind of slow i like. i thought maybe i’m being impatient until i read this post. i was really looking forward to reading it thinking it would be inspiring, but i’m getting a feeling here that it won’t be.

  2. I didn’t know you wrote a review for this book. Had I read this review earlier I would have read it right away. I read the book just last week and I liked it. But yes it’s a book that you need to dig deeper into and maybe even read more than once to figure out what it really means. It has a lot of great insights that made me think and re-assess things in my life. And it’s definitely not a book for young adults.The prose may be quite simple but the message of the book is far more complicated than the way it was written. I have watched the movie as well. It was okay but I could not say that I like it more than the book

    • this is the first book i read for the year, micah. it’s a good read but it was not what i expected. it’s dark and complicated but still i liked it. i’m not keen on watching the movie though, but i might in the future if my man picks up a copy or something.

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    • thanks ๐Ÿ™‚ you think? c’mon, you can’t be too old for anything ๐Ÿ˜€ i think it is a good peephole into what some adolescents are like, but like i mentioned, there are bigger things in this story than being a teen.

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    • i really did not think the book will be like this. you’ll never guess if you only read the back cover! i’ve read dear john last year. it’s so heartbreaking!

  14. ” be a filter not a sponge” – i think that would be my mantra this year. i just realized after reading that line, i was more of a sponge my whole life.

    you’re making heads up with your reading goal for 2012.

    • the perks of being a filter ๐Ÿ˜† i guess there are times when you have to be a filter and there are times when you have to be a sponge. yes, i really want to clear everything this year!

  15. gay sex, huh, interesting, maybe i’ll try this one out one of these days. I’m itching to find good books to read this year. although i still need to finish Ricky Lee’s Amapola.

    • the most interesting take on gay sex here is the fact that it is the popular guys who actually do it but they keep it secret because they are scared. it sure sounds familiar. i’ve never heard of amapola. is it good gb?

  16. oh yeah..if you were a wallpaper, you must have a lot of stories to tell. depending on your lifespan, you can witness the lives of multiple generations.

    natawa ako…you’re reading a “deep” book, and here I am reading The Diary of a Wimpy Kid. Haha!

    • i don’t know how cool is that, because all the stories you will tell are not yours. i think that is a waste. when you mentioned the diary of a wimpy kid is quite a good book in your blog, i wanted to read it too. when i saw it on the book store the first time i wondered if it will entertain me. me thinks sheng’s boy is also reading the diary of a wimpy kid. i saw it on her holidays post.

    • it was hard for me to understand at first so i had to read it again. :mrgreen: it is a good book with lots of insights. happy new year to you too ๐Ÿ™‚

    • i gave the book to my man. we made a deal that i’d watch more movies if he read more books ๐Ÿ™‚ you can get it after it circles us here ๐Ÿ˜€

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